I went for my annual appointment with my OB-GYN appointment today. (Don’t worry, boys, no girly graphical descriptions here). My doctor is moving to Virginia. I contemplated postponing the appointment and just seeing another doctor because Little Miss is sick today, but I wanted one last chance to talk to the woman that saw me through pregnancy and a c-section.
And on a side note, goodness, is it challenging taking a sick 1 year old to the doctor with you.
Anyway, I started talking to the doc about the c-section, and told her how I had talked to many women that said they didn’t feel a thing. I, on the other hand, felt like I was being gutted alive. It was a really freaky experience. I asked her if this was because I had a “conservative” anesthesiologist. She took one look at my chart and saw who the anesthesiologist was for my surgery, and said, “oh, yes, he is conservative.”
She then went on to tell me that I shouldn’t have felt nearly what I described, and said that men anesthesiologists tend to have bigger “egos” and tend to make women tough it out.
Excuse me?! What man in the history of the world has ever toughed it out during child birth?!
My doctor then told me that for scheduled c-sections (like I would most likely have for kiddo #2), you can request a specific anesthesiologist. She then gave me a list of women anesthesiologists that serve both hospitals in the area.
Things all make sense now. I couldn’t figure out why other women weren’t bothered by the experience of a c-section. I couldn’t figure out why no one had ever told me how much you feel. That’s because you’re not SUPPOSED to feel anything. Grrrrr…
This time last year, I was on a mission to tell other women what a c-section is like (as I wrote the Birth Story and told it verbally time and time again). Now, my message has changed drastically. If you’re in an unplanned c-section, and you have a “conservative” anesthesiologist, shout it from the mountain tops that you need more drugs.
And if you’re having a scheduled c-section, by all means, talk to your doctor about what anesthesiologist you should have attending to you. You can bet I’ll be doing that.
I really liked my OB-GYN. She’s the first doctor I ever felt an attachment to, as she saw me through pregnancy and birth. She made me feel even better today by gushing about how I had returned to my pre-pregnancy weight, and wanting to know how I did that, as most women can’t. Man, I’m going to miss that woman.
So now the search for a new doctor begins. I have a few good leads, but not to be sexist or anything, the referrals I’ve received have been for men. For the past 10 years, I have had women OB-GYNs, as I first want to support women in medicine, and secondly, I think they are more empathetic to the conditions they are treating. And now after hearing about manly anesthesiologists making women tough it out, I’m not so sure I want a man delivering my next baby.
Note: I am not pregnant. I do not have immediate plans to become pregnant. I’m just planning for the future here, people. No one get all excited now…