I’ve decided that searching for a new job is much like the dating scene. Follow along with me here.
You first see that job posting, it’s like seeing a really hot guy from across the room. Looks good… You decided to look into it further, and then send on your resume. Very much like online dating if you ask me.
And then you wait. You put yourself out there, and now you have to wait to see if they’re interested.
The phone finally rings, or they finally answer your e-mail and they’re asking you to an interview. It’s just like a first date! Oh my gosh, what am I going to wear, what am I going to say, whill they like me?!!!! I want to make a good first impression….
Before the interview, you fuss about your outfit, your hair and your makeup, wanting to look just so. On that interview, you offer your winningest smile, and answer questions the way you think they’d want to hear the answers. You try to read body language and verbal cues to see if they like you or not.
And then you wait again for them to call. Meanwhile, you’re still wondering, did they like me? Could I have answered their questions better? When are they going to call?
So you send e-mails to thank them for the interview (much like if you were to e-mail someone you went on a date with just to say hello). You don’t get a response, so then you start to wonder well, what does THAT mean?
And then, finally they call. And you learn that you got the job. THEY LIKE ME! THEY LIKE ME!
But then you have to talk DETAILS. Much like in dating how those first conversations about marriage and kids can be daunting, negotiating that job offer feels much the same. You WANT to tell them what you really NEED, but is that going to scare them off? Is that going to ruin the deal?
So then you accept the job, which is much like accepting an engagement, or at least deciding to be exclusive with that one special person.
Much like that, quitting a job can be just like a nasty breakup. Look at my current situation — I’ve been with this job for four years, through ups and downs, through thick and thin, and my resignation will definitely leave them in a bit of a lurch. You then have to have the conversation of “it’s me, not you”, when sometimes you really mean, “it’s completely YOU and not at all ME”.
And, like many breakups, it’s amazing how quickly you can shut a door on a past that took up so much time and effort. You walk away, into the new job, with renewed hope for the future, and increased pressure to really make things work this time around.
The whole process is exhausting.
And I’m so glad I’m not doing the dating thing in real life anymore!